Having a baby is a uniquely personal experience. Every mom has a different level of comfort when it comes to who they allow in the Delivery Room. Some woman say no to family members to avoid stressful dynamics. Others say no to family because they want to share this intimate moment with only their partner. All are valid reasons. However, saying no to eager family members can be intimidating and difficult to navigate.
Before you talk to your family check your hospital’s regulations. Many hospitals have a plus two limit in the delivery room. In this case you can avoid conflict by explaining that the decision is out of your control. If this is not the case talk to your family as soon as possible. Avoiding the conversation will only make it harder to confront them in the long run. The best way to confront family members who want to be in your delivery room is from a place of honesty and love. Keep the conversation positive and focus on the common love that you share for the baby. Approaching the conversation in this way will show that this is not a personal vendetta. It can also be helpful to remind them that even though they are missing the delivery they will be there for all of the other important moments in your child’s life. More likely than not your family will be able to realize that you are doing what you think is best for you and the baby.
Talking to your family in these ways will help them gain an understanding into your perspective. If there are any hurt feelings make an extra effort to include them after the birth. Any lingering anger will likely disappear with the first glimpse of the newest family member. It is pretty much impossible to stay mad when there is a beautiful baby to hold.