As a mother it’s natural to feel sorry for something your child might be going through. Someone once said to me, “you are as happy as your saddest child.” I have found this to be true. Connecting with your children, spouse, or anyone for that matter takes a level of open-hearted-ness that is judgment free. Easier said than done. I’ve been challenged by so many intricate aspects of motherhood, and often times just don’t have the answer and that’s okay. Parenting doesn’t come with a manual. You can only expect the unexpected.
Waking up every day to care for another is selfless. It’s the most generous act of kindness on this planet. It truly takes a village to raise a child. It’s a constant mirror image of yourself that you must be willing to take a deep look at, with compassion. Forgiving yourself for all the things you did or did not do allows you to recover from all your feelings. No one is perfect, hard stuff right?
I’ve learned so much about myself through mothering 2 beautiful children. In fact, it’s forced me to grow up and become a woman. I suppose someone forgot to tell me that I had become an adult. I’ve always been a kid at heart. But as my life progressed and I’ve been confronted with real deep life altering issues, I myself have lost that twinkle in my eyes. That smile that came so effortlessly was gone! Bitterness started to consume my soul and it was unbeknownst to me. It’s so sneaky…you are the last to know that you’ve become sad with feelings of hopelessness. It’s a bottom~
Well, Don’t let it! Don’t lose YOU in parenting. Your baby/child deserves a happy parent. Even if you fake it until you make it. It’s a choice to feel happy. So I encourage you to connect with your inner feelings. You must feel it to heal it. This doesn’t mean you stay in bed days on end and fall into a depression. It means you are allowing yourself to acknowledge your pain, then move on. Do so with love.
Take the time to get out of your head and put yourself in your child’s shoes. Connect, and I mean really connect.
I encourage you to watch this 3 minute video by Brene Brown on Empathy!