Working New Moms

Posted by Joelle Silverman October - 27 - 2014
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Returning to work after maternity leave can be a really tough transition. You are probably dreading leaving your brand new baby, but also excited to get out of the house and back to your routine! But, you might wonder how you are supposed to “get back to your routine” now that you have a baby. And how are you even going to swing going back to work with a new baby at home? The truth it, your routine won’t be exactly the same, but there are still plenty of ways to balance work with new motherhood.

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Arrange Childcare

This one is a no-brainer. Maybe you’re lucky enough to be able to bring your baby to work, especially if your office has a daycare. Otherwise, if your partner isn’t staying at home, look into a good nanny, daycare center that is suitable for newborns, or arrange to have a family member or close friend watch over the little one during the day. It is super important to always have a back up (or two, or three) for if your babysitter or nanny needs a day off or if your baby gets sick and can’t go to daycare.

 Transition Smoothly

However you decide to provide care for your baby while you are at work, don’t wait until the first day you go back to have them start. “Dress rehearsals” will make the transition so much easier for you and the baby- you will get more peace of mind, and your baby will get used to being away from you and having someone else look after him or her. Have your nanny or babysitter start coming a week before you go back to work, so you can show them the ropes. During this time, have the sitter act as if you weren’t there- this will help them be better prepared and it is also a gentle way of getting your baby used to you not being there. This will help your baby to not feel a sense of abandonment when you begin working again-he or she will get used to the fact that even if you aren’t there 24/7, you do always come back.

Talk to Your Employer

Before going back to work, talk to your boss to clarify your schedule and what is expected of you after your time off. Get a feel for how flexible he or she will allow you to be- baby you can bring your baby to the office some days, or maybe you can work at home part time. See to what extent you can fuse your work life with your new mommy responsibilities. Also, a trick to make going back to work easier is to have your first day back be on a Wednesday or Thursday, that way your first week back is a short one.

Get Pumping

If you plan on breastfeeding, this could be the most challenging parts of going back to work. If you work close to home, arrange a feeding schedule for your baby where you can go home during lunch or other breaks to feed. Make a habit of feeding your baby immediately before you leave for work to hold them over until you come back. If you don’t live close enough to your office to be running back and forth, start pumping two weeks before going back to work to make sure the sitter has plenty to feed the baby with. Also, talk to your employer about creating an environment at work with an outlet where you can pump with privacy.

Stay Connected

It will be difficult to be away from your child after weeks of bonding time. Fill your desk with pictures of your baby so he or she is always around you. Call or text the babysitter or day care center at least once a day to check in on your baby. Most importantly, make the most of the time you do have with your baby, before and after work and on weekends. Spend as much time as possible with your baby during those times. But don’t forget- between caring for a newborn and working, you’re allowed to have some time to yourself as well!

4 Responses so far.

  1. Aurora says:

    I think this is the hardest thing. The more I’ve been talking to working moms the more I realize that everyone’s situation is different but there is a lot of support out there if you ask. I think the more we all support working moms the better we are making it for our friends, daughters and generations of women who have to navigate this tricky time.

  2. Camila Damas says:

    So here is my way of thinking. Since I got married and its been almost 10 years. I’ve always had my full time jobs and had always worked a lot. And me and my husband always had talked that when i get pregnant I will stop, take my time, take properly care of our baby and dedicate my whole time to him or her. And so we did. When I got preg of my first one I became a full time stay home mom. And it’s the best decision I’ve ever made. And I don’t regret making this decision of staying and raising my child right, my way! And I think that’s the best choice to do. If you have a spouse that has a full time job that can provide for you and the house, why rush to have the baby and soon go back to your carrear to make your buck? Trust me $1000 a week it’s just so not more worth it for me than spending every single day 24h days with my precious one, because let’s face it. They are only babies and toddlers for like what? 4 years!!!!!!! That goes by sooooo fast and you don’t wanna miss it. Then they start going to school and then you can go back to your carrear because seriously you have the entire life in front of you to work and make your money. But these 4 years that are the BEST it will never come back!!!!!!!! And how fun it have been for me and I wouldn’t change it for any other way. And I’m sure my daughter appreciates and thank me for doing this and not let her be raised and spend more time with a nanny or a daycare than with her mommy. It would kill me inside if I would only see my child in the early morning and then in the evening when is almost time to sleep. I would be missing most of her. And that’s exactly what money can’t buy.

  3. As much as I would like to be a stay at home mom at least for a little while, I love my career and I am going to be a single mom. My family lives in another country, but I do have a great support system which is key! Many of my friends couldn’t afford to stay home more than a few months as well.
    I don’t work in an office but my job involves a lot of travel and its not 9-5. I decided in an au-pair.
    I have the room to house someone but the overall coots is far less than a full time nanny or a babysitter. This way I can get 45 hrs a week of support and it be on my terms. The idea of hosting someone makes me very excited and it’s another alternative to childcare.
    Kudos to all mothers. These decisions are hard and of course being with our children and their happiness is the number one priority. I’m glad I’ve had such great role models!

  4. Michelle says:

    I love hearing how everyone handles work post-baby differently since there really is no “right” way. All good things to think about. I am going to try working part time remotely and see if I want to/have to transition back full time.